In a recent post to his blog, Stephen Black, director of Exodus charter member First Stone Ministries, added more of his own spin to the Sally Kern issue, and with it some new facts. He again expresses support, not shame, focusing on how he thinks Kern was the victim and her words, if taken in context, would be understood as loving:
They edited down the comments to what they considered the most inflammatory sound bites. Their cunning plan was to upload the edited comments to YouTube in hopes of enraging gay people and their supporters. This plan, they thought, would further the “Victory Fund” gay political cause and bring in funds for their political machine. Over and over they emphasize that Rep. Kern’s speech demonstrated hatred towards gays. What they failed to mention – or include in the sound bites – is the truth, that Rep. Sally Kern said we must love the homosexual.
For the record, the entire speech was released shortly after the original clip surfaced. There was no editing, but a 2:45 clip of her main remarks about gays was taken in it’s entirety. The remaining portion dealing with the subject hardly helps to change the tone in a positive direction — quite the contrary. But many of the articles written in favor of her words add the claim about editing in an apparent attempt to further illustrate how the writer believes Kern has been wronged.
We must “love the homosexual,” a phrase I have always found repugnant and sterile. In this case, as with Exodus, is seems that we must love the homosexual, but only truly accept them if and when they hate the fact that they are homosexual (if indeed we accept that there is such a thing). If one is content and gay, well we might love them like we would a savage in need of a missionary. But then Black can’t resist going further in a comment which misstates, lightly renounces and then supports Kern’s terrorism remarks all in the same breath.
In her remarks during the January speech, Rep. Kern mentioned the parallel of the gay political movement in the United States – not individual gays. She said the agenda of the gay political movement is, in her opinion, as dangerous as terrorism. While I personally would not have used this parallel, the irony of this story is impossible to ignore. That irony is demonstrated very visibly in the hate emails numbering over 26,000, death threats, and the meanspirited and orchestrated campaign calling for her resignation. These very tactics are akin to terroristic tactics, therefore point directly back to Sally’s original parallel. Truly this is ironic!
Black claims, as many Kern supporters have, that she was talking only about a political movement when she made the terrorism comparison. It’s not individual gay people that are more dangerous than terrorists, it’s their attempt at representation in the political system that is so dangerous (“gays are infiltrating city councils”). And even though local investigators determined that none of the “death threats” were really threats, this is used by Black to again compare the outrage of gay people to terrorism. In order to illustrate how absurd his first claim is, here is the section of Kern’s speech where she made the terrorism remark:
… according to God’s word that is not the right kind of lifestyle. It has deadly consequences for those people involved in it. They have more suicides and they’re more discouraged, there’s more illness, their life spans are shorter. You know, it’s not a lifestyle that is good for this nation. Matter of fact, studies show no society that has totally embraced homosexuality has lasted more than, you know, a few decades. So it’s the death knell for this country. I honestly think it’s the biggest threat even, that our nation has, even more so than terrorism or Islam, which I think is a big threat, okay. [emphasis added]
Ignoring the Cameronesque junk science quotes, it is obvious that Kern was not referring to a political movement, but to homosexuals and “their lifestyle” as a bigger threat to this country than people who fly planes into buildings. What Black says next may provide a clue as to one of the reasons Exodus has not made any official statement on Kern’s speech:
The untold part of this story – which I delight to tell you now – is that behind the scenes, Rep. Sally Kern and her husband, Dr. Stephen Kern have supported First Stone Ministries for many years. Dr. Stephen Kern is the senior pastor at Olivet Baptist Church, which actually hosts some of First Stone Ministries’ support groups. The Kern’s have a special place in their hearts for our ministry to those who struggle with same-sex attractions and homosexuality.
First Stone Ministries has been a part of Exodus since the beginning in 1976. They are, no doubt, an old and trusted part of the network. Kern and her husband support First Stone Ministries, perhaps financially, but certainly by hosting them in their own church. First Stone is even listed as a ministry on the website of Olivet Baptist. Apparently there is no problem at all with having an ex-gay point of view in office, but representing gay interests is terrorism territory.
Chris Morrison, development coordinator with First Stone Ministries writes in the same post about his “struggle with homosexuality” and describes his choices as “continuing to seek the Lord in my weakness or just give up and live as a gay man.” In his recollection from 2004, he illustrates the depth of the near worship Kern has garnered from the oddest places:
In 2004 I had the privilege of supporting Sally Kern as she ran for State Representative. I attended her watch party on Election Day and remembered her saying she knew that God was calling her to run for State Representative, but didn’t know all the reasons. That statement resounded in my head as I stood and watch Sally Kern at the Freedom of Speech Rally – “Rally for Sally” on April 2, 2008. I remembered the words from the Bible, “For such a time as this.” Sally Kern, is a representative “for such a time as this.”
Read that quote above from Kern’s speech, and then contemplate the mindset that would cast her as some sort of anti-gay patron saint in this way. The events surrounding Kern’s bizarre little talk have both angered and saddened me. I’m beginning to realize that, in at least some cases, what I thought was a more civil, sincere change in the hearts and minds of those who have opposed gay rights and equality in this society, perhaps was only a thin veneer which they feel has been imposed upon them.
There are those who feel put out by having to temper their prejudice, tone down their rhetoric, curb their hate — essentially act more like decent human beings. And somehow, Kern has given these people a twisted sense of deliverance, a battle cry, and a line in the sand. To be sure there are plenty who have never moderated their venom, but I wonder now how much room there is between an Exodus and a Peter LaBarbera. The latter regularly uses fear as a tool to motivate people to hate. Stephen Black and First Stone Ministries are doing essentially the same thing through Sally Kern. At least LaBarbera is up front about it.
When Jim Phelan said things Exodus considered out of line, he was dropped from their membership. Stephen Black was part of the rally for Kern, and he not only supports her position entirely, but has made many of the same statements himself. Perhaps Exodus owes Phelan an apology, and a restoration of his membership.
It is always going to be “the homosexual”, for them in the context of “the drug addict” or “the smoker” or “the alcoholic”. They would just love to treat “the homosexual” as nothing but just a lifestyle. Shall we, in the spirit of Dr. Throckmorton’s Golden Rule Initiative, do unto them what they had done unto us then? We really must “love the heterosexual”.
If we do not love the heterosexual; divorces will rise, abortions will increase, hate crimes will double… Since we are at it, perhaps we should love “these” Christians as well, if we do not love these “Christians”; LGBTs will reject Christ, a big percentage of church members will stumble, worst of all… many people would be spending their entire life seeking a “change” that need not be, rather than seeking God…. All thanks to people like Mr. Black!
That’s the heart of the matter. In fundamentalistic terms, “loving” someone means doing whatever is necessary save their soul from eternal torment – and in the pursuit of such an end, any and all means that might achieve it are justified.
It is not loving to call people terrorists and compare them to cancer.
This is the “tough love” they try to toss at us. Tough love requires that you love in the first place. Tough Love is for children who do not respond to regular parenting and who are a potential danger to themselves and others.
If they truly “loved” the homosexual, they would not oppose GLSEN and the Day Of Silence. They would not oppose federal protections, hate crime legislation, or marriage equality.
I love my family, and I support all of them in their endeavors, even the endeavors I don’t understand or necessarily agree with. The only time I really open my mouth is when it looks like they’re going to put themselves in danger. Actual danger. Unambiguous danger, not “oh your soul is infected with darkness” made-up danger.
I asked Stephen Black about his claim that Kern had received what he called “hate mail” and emails numbering over 26,000 along with death threats.
I wondered, how many of these letters got labeled as “hate mail” by her staff and supporters simply because they disagreed with her? Is it “hateful” to express disagreement, dismay and disgust?
Furthermore, I didn’t realize that sending a strongly worded email expressing disagreement or moral outrage was “akin to terrorist tactics”. I thought they used jetliners, kidnappings, beheadings, cutting off fingers and blwoing up innocent people with IED’s.
This phrase is not only repugnant to gays, it’s repugnant to gay Jews.
All excellent posts my friends….and the last sentence here Emily K.
Gives me the chills in thinking of my petite Native American and her sisters taken from their families and forced into Christians schools only to renounce their own names and cultures and family origins.
This was done to Aboriginals in Australia and in Africa.
And of course with tragic and unforgivable results. There are ten aunts and uncles on my father’s side that didn’t survive childhood because of that thinking.
This attitude ENRAGES me. I won’t be sad anymore, I’m going to be angry and figure out a way to give these people what for.
How incredibly arrogant. What conceit to their perception of supremacy.
Again, I ask the question: did it not occur to this a-hole Black that ‘the gays’ don’t love Kern or those like her back?
If it was ‘love’ of the legitimate kind, than that love would be reciprocated. They don’t care that it isn’t and don’t care why.
And they certainly don’t appreciate that regardless of what ever violations have occurred against the gay and transgendered, the response is Day of Silence, appeals to the Senate on hate crimes bills and anti bullying laws and peaceful and legally sanctioned rallies.
Considering the ease in which a person can commit violence, their perception of threat is seriously ridiculous.
Indeed, it’s insulting all over again.
Their gift just keeps on giving and the deeper they sink, the more spiteful and ridiculous they look.
Exodus doesn’t love ‘the gays’, if that were true, their tradition would work in a positive and fruitful way and wouldn’t require such exaggeration of purpose and results.
Their ‘love’ makes liars of them all.
shoot, I meant to say my petite Native American GRANDMOTHER and her sisters.
Socially conservative politician or church leader said:
* Love the sin and hate the sinner; we LOVE homosexuals
† Void where prohibited; offer not good in some congregations
The question I would like to ask Sally Kern (and her associates) is simple – how should those who consider her religion as heretical treat her? She claims to be speaking from a Christian perspective, but she gets to choose her definition of “Christian.” There are plenty of Christians, most notably the Catholic church, who have sincere doubts about her religious lifestyle choice, but I doubt she would want them to treat her the same way she treats LGBT folks.