PFOX distorts the author’s thesis when it conflates promiscuity with same-sex attraction and points to “chastity” as a cure for homosexual persons — as if same-sex-attracted family members who are honest about their orientation were inherently unchaste. Author Eden probably won’t object to this reinterpretation of her book, however: Good As You says Eden has a history of equating same-sex-attracted persons with AIDS and misportraying the science (such as it is) of genetics as it relates to sexual orientation.
PFOX’s review of Eden’s book is not bylined — the anonymous writer speaks of the “ex-gay community” in the first-person plural “we” — as if PFOX’s leadership were ex-gay. (Executive director Regina Griggs is an antigay mother, and PFOX has been reluctant to identify its other current leaders.)
Of Eden’s search for the perfect heterosexual mate, the PFOX reviewer says:
Every ex-gay man and woman can relate to this experience. We didn’t start having interest in the opposite sex until we were in our 30’s or later. Dating someone whose genitals didn’t match our own was like experiencing puberty all over again at age 35. Marriage was not attainable for us until we finally achieved that clear vision Eden writes about, and that didn’t happen until much later in life. That an everstraight like Dawn Eden can perceive her situation and evaluate it so clearly is remarkable.
The reviewer’s effort to define all ex-gays according to his own experience of midlife change in self-labeling does a disservice to the many twentysomething ex-gays that Ex-Gay Watch has encountered: People who (like Alan Chambers and Randy Thomas) decided in their late teens or early twenties to blame homosexuality, rather than choice and youthful irresponsibility, for their teen-age promiscuity. Whether these early-blooming or midlife ex-gays have truly achieved any significant change in sexual attraction, of course, remains a matter of debate.