The Exodus media blog yesterday promoted a WorldNetDaily item categorically accusing gay parents, who seek marriage to protect their kids, of promoting incest.
Exodus claims that it does not endorse the items on its blog. The purpose of a media blog, after all, is (sometimes) to cover the media without comment. But as I have said before, impartiality is undermined in Exodus’ case by the extreme selectivity of the blog’s sources.
Exodus appears to spend at least an hour or two per day excerpting angry and ill-informed articles from antigay movement sources such as WND, AgapePress, Baptist Press, and ex-gay activists such as Stephen Bennett. Unlike mainstream Christian news media, these sources are better known for their omission of key facts from stories, and for pontification against those who do not share the source’s political or denominational ideology.
After collecting excerpts, Exodus publishes them without any constructive feedback. Exodus blog readers are left to conclude, if nothing else, that Exodus considers its excerpts to be accurate.
Now compare Exodus’ favorable treatment of antigay propaganda to its treatment of mainstream news media articles. Exodus doesn’t link to gay-tolerant or gay-affirming media voices at all, and it is selective in its choice of mainstream media articles: The Exodus media blog offers no excerpts from any of the dozens of mainstream news articles each week that report on school harassment, workplace discrimination, or violence.
In other words, Exodus misleads its blog readers to believe that harassment, discrimination and violence are not happening.
As it happens, Nancy Brown, the contributor of the incest post, has a vested and emotional investment in the issue of parenting: She operates an exgay web site that tells heterosexual parents they are to blame for their children’s homosexuality.
One of the pieces attributed to Ms. Brown is a story “written for the single mothers or family members of children (Approximately aged 8-12) whose fathers have left home to enter the homosexual lifestyle,” titled Where Is Daddy?. In it, Tessa asks her father about a neighbor’s gay dad, Ben:
A couple of the underlying messages to kids:
Whatever is happening to you today may be scarring you deeply, and the wounds may still be gaping and raw a decade or three down the road.
Admitting that you feel different from your peers can be dangerous, a lie planted by Satan.
Whatever happened to Psalm 139, about every person being fearfully and wonderfully made, woven together by God in mother’s womb, with God present in every peak and valley of life?
That’s the thing that bothers me about the stance that says homosexuality is somehow evil. It turns gays and lesbians into a kind of “other”, a collection of non-humans. The fact that many of us have wrestled with these spiritual issues and come to different conclusions is ignored!
Websites like this one do so much damage.
Further, the Massachusetts ruling on incest and the ruling on gay marriage have absolutely nothing two do with each other. Exodus may maintain this as long as it wants to, but saying this is so does not necessarially make it so.
That piece of writing quoted by Steve B. (“Where’s Daddy?”) is hard to stomach and downright frightening. Undistilled ignorance and evil – ala Nicolosi/Moberly – served up for the benefit of trusting children.
As one of those daddies who now lives apart from his children, I am sickened that any parent would use such a resource to poison the minds of their own offspring. I would go BALLISTIC if I found out my ex-wife had shared such a book with my kids. Thankfully she has recently been able to tell them, “Your father is a gay man, and there is nothing wrong with him.”
Gay marriage promotes INCEST? Arghhhh!!!
Nancy Brown operates an “ex-gay” web site called “Life Guard MINISTRIES“?
Someone else wanting to make a buck off of the “christian” rubes by bashing gay people.
ROTFLMAO
BTW, it is WorldNutDaily
I checked out Don and Nancy Brown’s site. Read the entire text of the “Where’s Daddy” story (under resources for parents.) It is DIABOLICAL. It ends with the fictional ‘Christian’ kids assuring the children of the gay man that their “REAL DADDY” will always love them – the implication being that the gay dad cannot be a ‘real daddy’ and does not really love them. UNBELIEVABLE!!!
My impression of the testimonies of Nancy and Don is that they fall into a common pattern with ex-gay ministers – blaming the problems/issues/sins of their relationship on homosexuality when the real cause may simply be that they are emotionally unhealthy people living with massive doses of denial.
Read the story on incest. Ick! A 60 year old step father sleeping with his 15 year old step dauther..eweh.
Is it me but I think that exodus and the rest of the world have a different view on the purpose of law. They seem to view law as a means to promote morality and people like me see it as a way to promote a stable society.
Anyone who thinks a ruling that a stepfather (who by definition is not related to the wife or children) should be prosecuted on incest charges is out of step with the reason for incest laws. Heck even a search of the bible would not find support that the stepfather doing so is committing incest.
As for what else they could charge him on. Depending on the state, you could charge him on statutory rape or you could charge him with laws against harming a minor. But incest just isn’t the correct charge for the case. I don’t think that such a relationship between stepfather and stepdaughter is appropriate, but incest it certainly is not.
Also will someone please tell me what a inappropriate heterosexual relationship has to do with homosexual marriage? I mean legally speaking those two people would be able to marry each other in every state. They are not related to each other and would only need a divorce in his case and a coming of age in her case to marry. However two men who have no such weird family relationship would not be able to marry in any state. Sounds strange. A hetrosexual relationship no matter how inappropriate is better than a homosexual one.
Actually, I do think that a stepfather should be prosecuted on incest charges, I don’t think he’s by definition unrelated to his stepdaughter (by definition he’s related to her, but not by blood), and I don’t think I’m out of touch with the reason for incest laws. Incest is wrong only secondarily because it raises the probability of birth defects; the primary reason it’s wrong is that it mucks up the family and is generally an abuse of authority (and a stepfather molesting his fifteen-year-old daughter sure counts as abuse of authority).
On the other hand, I quite agree that incest has nothing to do with same-sex marriage, which isn’t an abuse of authority.
“Actually, I do think that a stepfather should be prosecuted on incest charges, I don’t think he’s by definition unrelated to his stepdaughter (by definition he’s related to her, but not by blood), and I don’t think I’m out of touch with the reason for incest laws.”
That’s nice. Unfortunately, the fact is that what is criminal in a state is defined by the laws of the state as to what is–uh–criminal. If you were to actually read the majority opinion of the court in the MA case, you would see why they did not believe that the specific MA law did not extend to what the accused had done.
As the father of four, I can attest to the wickedness of lies told to children in the name of religion. I have two girls and two boys. The boys were not allowed to visit me in another state because, in my exwife’s words, “they aren’t old enough to protect themselves from all your queer friends.” The girls weren’t allowed to visit because, “You’re gay, so you have no morals, and you’ll put them on the street to ‘work’ to pay your rent.” That’s just a part of what she said to me directly; I have no idea the depth or breadth of her lies to my kids. It wasn’t until they grew up that I was able to independently reclaim somewhat of a relationship with my daughters. My boys, unfortunately, were younger and more impressionable at the time, and they are still distant and detached, most likely because of the things they were told when they were small. I later learned my child support money was used to pay for private schooling in a small independent fundamentalist church school where they were taught more lies about their father.
There must be a better was to teach childen about diversity in this world.
Well, this commentary was light-hearted compared to the one issued by Mark Creech, of the “Christian” Action League of North Carolina, today, entitled “The Sexual Assault on America.”
It is available on the AFA website, here’s the direct link: http://headlines.agapepress.org/archive/3/afa/292004mc.asp
I don’t think anything has made me angrier than this “commentary.”
What a grab-bag of bad logic, distortion and lies. It would have done Goebbles proud. Some of these peoples have REAL problems. It amazes me to see the self-styled servants of the truth spinning such falsehoods.
Ray, I know the feeling. My ex, with the help of the Alliance Defense Fund has successfully defied ordered contact and visitation for over 10 years. my children are now strangers to me.
I didn’t realize, raj, that a specific court case about whether a stepfather had committed incest was what was under discussion. I thought the question was whether support for same-sex marriage obligated a person to support stepfathers sleeping with their fifteen-year-old daughters (which we agree it doesn’t, right?). For which reason I took the question to be whether the law for incest should be written to cover stepfather/stepdaughter relations as well, not what a court should do if the law wasn’t so written.
If stepfather/stepdaughter relations aren’t legally incest in a particular jurisdiction, then a stepfather sleeping with his fifteen-year-old daughter in that jurisdiction should indeed be charged with statutory rape, rather than with incest. Personally, I think that stepfather/stepdaughter sex should be legally incest, for the reason I gave, about the nature of what’s wrong with incest. But obviously I agree that courts should follow the actual law, rather than what I think the law should be.
In any case, it seems clear to me both that it should not be considered acceptable for stepfathers to molest their fifteen-year-old daughters, and that legalizing same-sex marriage has nothing whatsoever to do with such molestation, and wouldn’t move us one whit closer to a world in which everyone thinks it’s just fine for stepfathers to molest their daughters.
Regarding the Bible and homosexuality being a sin, and thus opposing gay marriage, the “Christian” right has it wrong.
I invite you to read: “Connecting the Biblical Dots: Why Jesus Is For Same-sex Marriage.” It’s a biblically grounded paper that gives a convincing argument why homosexuality is not a sin to God and why marriage, including same-sex marriage, is the acceptable standard. You may read it here: http://www.purplepew.org/biblical_dots.html
Kind Regards,
V.L. Carey
The Purple Pew
Stand Up For Truth
http://www.purplepew.org
it very bag for father the to rape his owe blood born daugther. Even the bible is against it so i will advice all father who are trying to rape theirs should not try it bye