Musician Rufus Wainwright tells the New York Times about his journey to “Gay Hell” and back.
Wainwright is blunt about his recent-past drug abuse and casual sex with strangers.
His method of recovery was quite practical. Hold your breath, now:
He entered rehab.
He did not blame his abuses on same-sex attraction, scapegoat any particular set of political enemies, demand allegiance to one particular religious sect, or count on “Jesus alone” for a miracle healing. He did not ditch his music career and adopt a “masculine” career pursuit such as coal mining or corporate embezzlement.
He simply got the help that he needed from experts and moved on with his life.
The Times article explores Wainwright’s unsettled relationship with his father Loudon, noting that many of the people whom Wainwright encountered in group therapy at Hazelden also had troubled paternal ties. The article writer was, however, mature enough not to turn Loudon into a political or sexual scapegoat or a quick fix for Rufus’ issues.
Ultimately, Rufus seems to accept responsibility for his actions, and where he’s going in life. He probably won’t pursue celibacy, but makes him no less a role model for people seeking to reduce or stop compulsive or undesired behaviors.
Next magazine also profiles Rufus.
Addendum: Concerned Women for America predictably distorts Rufus’ battle against drugs and compulsive sex. It cites his feelings about his father, while excluding all the other factors that played into the breakdown.