(OK, so hot boys on the web page movie poster…. Ya not in the actual film. Fred Phelps isn’t mentioned either.)
Whereas OutFest LA ignored our request to cover their event, T Joe Murray wants coverage of his film and sent me a screener of “Fish Can’t Fly”. (For the record OutFest didn’t show “Fish Can’t Fly,” I just wanted to bitch about them blowing us off).
The documentary was an excellent who’s-who of ex-ex-gays including:
Wayne Besen (formerly of HRC, turned “photographer” and author)
Wade Richards (“that kid from 20/20”)
Shawn O’Donnell (more than just an ex-gay in Exodus’ group photo)
Mary Lou Wallner (daughter took her own life, later joined Soulforce)
Joe Kort (we’ll forgive him for not plugging XGW)
Peterson Toscano (a true one-man show, hat included)
Everyone dedicated to the cause of exposing the lies within the ex-gay movement has their own approach. Mine tends more towards documentation and analysis, or generally logos. However an equally important part of the picture is pathos, the sort of heart wrenching stories Murray tells in his documentary. In fact there’s very little presented in the film that needs “explaining” other than a few definitions that pop up on-screen such as “Exodus” and “Reparative Therapy.” (Incidentally reparative therapy pops up one scene too early, before Joe Kort’s segment even begins.)
Over the course of the film, Murray allows his subjects, in their own words, to cover their entire coming-out story. I mean we go from when people first realized they’re gay all the way to what church they attend now and who they’re dating. That’s some serious ground Murray covers and there were only a few instances when it felt rushed. I’ll get to those later.
One of the most significant things presented was Wade Richard’s recollection of his time at Love In Action where he was told having Calvin Klein underwear represented a “false image” that contributed to his homosexuality. LIA prescribed that participants learn to conform to gender images by getting makeovers and learning to change oil. Richards viewed trying to adopt these gender stereotypes as the only “false image” to be found at LIA.
Kudos to Murray for the foresight to include a segment where Joe Kort explains in simple terms why subjecting children to reparative therapy at programs like Love In Action constitutes sexual abuse. This film was created before the state of Tennessee recently launched an investigation of LIA over a complaint of sexual abuse.
In case you’re wondering where the title comes from, I’m not going to tell you because I wouldn’t want to do anything to spoil Peterson’s performance when he explains it.
OK, now for the constructive criticism part.
Literally the first hour of the film is footage of people in their homes and offices giving their testimonies. I’m not knocking what they have to say, but visually it’s banal. Wayne Besen talks about his night photographing John Paulk at Mr P’s in DC, and numerous subjects talk about time spent at LIA. I would have done anything to get these people out from in front of their blank walls and have them tell their stories at places where elements actually happened. Later during footage of church services, the camera appears to be relegated to the back row or choir loft. In defense of Murray, he originally shot some dynamic footage of Peterson in the LIA parking lot which didn’t make it into the film but was included in bonus footage.
But that’s all visual.
Like I said before, Murray had a vast amount of story to cover with 13 people so there were a few things I would have liked to seen more of. First off Shawn has an adorable smile and comes off as a real sweetie. However, he gets a bit less screen time than others in the film. In what felt like three sentences, Shawn “explained” his decision to leave LIA and leapt forward to his marching in the SF pride parade. That’s a considerable jump, and that part of the segment felt superficial and left me feeling unsatisfied. Also, Shawn’s participation in Exodus and its publicity photo isn’t mentioned.
Murray included generous portions of Peterson’s one-man-show which I admit makes me want to see it even more than I did before. (Peterson I know you read this so get your butt to LA for a show already!) The newfound faiths of Murray’s subjects are explored but NOT Peterson’s. Actually Peterson, a Quaker, is the one person whose current faith I wanted to hear about.
This is where I’m supposed to compose some eloquent conclusion and wrap things up by reminding y’all of exactly what I just said. But ya know what? I’m taking one of my licensing exams tomorrow so I don’t care. If given the chance at your local gay film festival, make sure you see Fish Can’t Fly. Be sure to stay through the credits since Murray includes bonus footage which turns out to be some of the most captivating stuff he shot. He says something to the effect that he didn’t include it in the film because it didn’t fit into his composition thematically but was included as bonus footage because of its value.
Buy the DVD online here.
Of course fish can fly. At least some can https://oceanlink.island.net/oinfo/biodiversity/flyingfish/flyingfish.html
(is that enough to satisfy Mike?)
This is an excellent post, Dan. And the fellow on the right in the picture reminds me of a young Kevin Bacon. It’s in his eyes. As far as I can tell, it’s in the eyes: the way a guy looks at you. I seriously don’t care about anything else. But that’s just lil’ old me.
Hi Daniel!
Don’t give up on OutFest….go for the OutFest Wednesdays option.
I really,really, really want to see this doc.
I’ve been attending OutFest this year and I renewed my membership for another year.
Good luck…
That young fellow in the picture reminds me of my boy that I have mentioned is a police officer now.
They could be brothers they look so much alike.
Imagine…only in a dark, dark blue uniform.
In fact, my baby participated in a documentary on gay peace officers a few years ago and has spoken for PFLAG and at the Museum of Tolerance.
He’s such the activist…taking his cues from yours truly. He and I can be such partners in the trenches.
He’d like a movie like this. I wonder if there is anything I can to help, Dan?
Shoot me an email…I have an idea.
Daniel,
You are correct. Those hotties on the cover and Phelps do not appear in the film. You will also notice that there are no people of color among the subjects. Someone at the premiere at in NYC mentioned this during the Q&A session.
To me it reveals what many people do not talk about that the “ex-gay” movement is very much a white male movement. Sure there are women in it and people of color, but the vast majority are white males.
The reasons? myriad I am sure, but more and more I am seeing the impact of straight white male power and privilege as the unseen force behind the “ex-gay” movement. That among the many other issues surrounded and sustaining the movement give it power to draw people into the “ex-gay” fold (well for a season at least).
Now Daniel, about my spiritual journey. Would love to share this with you sometime! More and more queer folks have been approaching me about this. I find it is a major part of my life that I don’t share that much about it publically.
Peterson Toscano did a performance of “Homo Nomo” at a Quaker gathering in VA to great acclaim. What a talented guy, gifted storyteller and over all generous person.
Not sure where to post this, but I thought folks here might be interested… the New York Times has an article on Zach Stark buried (who knows why) in its Fashion and Style section. It’s worth a look.
Sorry about the link, apparently that doesn’t work. Here it is:
https://www.nytimes.com/2005/07/17/fashion/sundaystyles/17ZACH.html
Salon.com did a piece too. https://www.salon.com/partner/avantgo/1367000.html
Wayne Besen (formerly of HRC, turned “photographer” and author)
Should have acknowledged this earlier, Dan, sorry for not having done so. This is funny. I wonder what “Candi” (John Paulk) is doing tonight.
(Lest you misunderstand, I’m referring to the incident a few years ago in which Paulk was caught prancing around in a gay bar in DC and was photographed by Beson)
BTW, Lesz, is that you from the NYTimes Gay Rights Board? Just wondering
Hey y’all,
This isn’t the best place to post this…
But here’s an article about a pair of ex-ex’s interviewed in Mexico:
https://www.ipsnews.net/news.asp?idnews=29538
Daniel,
Ask and ye shall receive. I was recently interviewed for a podcast We talked about my faith, the “ex-gay” movement and my theater work. Visit my blog and follow the link there.