From Good As You:
In a review of Lucky Number Slevin, Focus on the Family refers to a rabbi’s son not by his sexual attraction, orientation, or struggle, but rather by his “sexual preference” and “lifestyle.”
Focus is suggesting to the public that becoming exgay is no more difficult than redirecting one’s “preference” — as though choosing between same- and opposite-gender attraction were like choosing between carrots and broccoli for dinner, or choosing a lifestyle of home construction over a lifestyle of interior design.
Self-identified exgays know that isn’t true — and should demand that Focus on the Family tell the truth about their struggles.
FoTF knows better – and deliberately uses the language of ‘lifestyle’ and ‘preference’ to advance their ideology. To use ‘orientation’ or actual terms like ‘gay’ or ‘LGBT’ in this context would signal giving in to reality.
That’s why the name Focus On the Fantasy is a much more appropriate name for them.