In some ways this subject is outside our normal scope (hence the open forum designation), but I feel there is a tie to the ex-gay equation as our own Daniel Gonzalez has recently illustrated. Faith, especially for Christians, can be both a motivating factor to seek out ex-gay therapy and, tragically, it can also be a casualty of that same mission. I don’t think Exodus or it’s member ministries realize just how detrimental this process can be.
This article from the New York Times, “Gay and Evangelical, Seeking Paths of Acceptance” is an honest peek into the lives of people who refuse to surrender either their faith or a large chunk of their humanity for the sake of those who just don’t agree with them about how God is working in their lives.
A lot of people are freaked out because their only exposure to evangelicalism was a bad one, and a lot ask, ‘Why would you want to be part of a group that doesn’t like you very much?’ ” Mr. Lee said. “But it’s not about membership in groups. It’s about what I believe. Just because some people who believe the same things I do aren’t very loving doesn’t mean I stop believing what I do.
This speaks to attitudes we sometime experience here at XGW. People have been hurt – some deeply – and any mention of church or God or faith brings that all back. For the gay Christian’s part, many Christians assume we couldn’t possibly be “true Christians” while many gay people wonder why we would even want to be.
The article also mentions Justin Lee. He’s a great guy and his website is a truely unique oasis for gay Christians to discuss their ongoing journey. Take a few minutes to read the article and post if it strikes any thoughts for you.
It’s an easy read and uncommonly fair: