The Christmas message reprinted below is directed at the leadership of the Anglican Communion. But it is perhaps even more applicable to the U.S. exgay movement.
While some Anglican leaders have at least acknowledged that hate speech sometimes leads to hate crimes, neither Exodus nor numerous independent exgay activists have acknowledged this.
Exodus continues to resort to antigay church leaders’ rhetoric — unsupported by mainstream science — that gay people are, with little or no exception, mentally defective. In its press releases, Exodus is silent about antigay violence. The "crimes" section" of Exodus’ media blog largely denies that some crimes are rooted in antigay hate, and instead reports wrongs committed by gay people.
In June, Exodus reprinted letters to CNSNews.com that denied the existence of hate crimes and simultaneously defended violence against homosexuals. Instead of criticizing the letter writers, Exodus blogger Nancy Brown conceals FBI statistics showing high numbers of violent antigay assaults, shifting reader attention instead to her own defense of verbal intimidation. Having hidden the number of assaults, Brown cites an out-of-context factoid from a report on domestic violence and argues:
"Sadly, it seems likely that the gay community is itself the worst perpetrator of crimes against homosexuals."
Brown neglects to cite readily available statistics on heterosexual domestic violence.
Exodus’ apparent intent from all that: Insinuate that same-sex sexual orientation causes crime. Through its silence and its evasions, Exodus effectively denies that antigay hate crimes recorded by the FBI and local authorities even qualify as a discussion topic.
Meanwhile, Focus on the Family recently relies upon a single, discredited ABC story to argue that 1) Matthew Shepard’s murder was not antigay, and 2) therefore, NBC’s Katie Couric should be misquoted and smeared for asking an obvious interview question: Does the religious right’s antigay rhetoric fuel violence against gay people?
While we frequently challenge exgay leaders to rectify their distortions of science, redress their therapeutic failures, and halt their efforts at discrimination and criminalization, we must remember that hate speech and hate crimes represent a very real matter of morality and the value of human life.
Just as antigay Anglicans are held accountable for their actions or negligence, it’s appropriate to hold Exodus-affiliated exgays accountable.
Gay-tolerant and gay-affirming mail to the Exodus national office is either misquoted or ignored. Perhaps it is time to consider politely asking Exodus-affiliated local ministries how they ethically justify paying annual fees to the national office.
— Mike
An Open Letter to the Archbishop of Canterbury
from the Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement
Your Advent letter to the Primates of the Anglican Communion is indeed accurate when it says that many homosexuals feel there is no good news for them in the Church. As an organisation devoted to bringing Christ to the homosexual community the Lesbian and Gay Christian Movement can testify to the profound rejection Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgendered people continue to experience within the Church.
You are also right to draw attention to the violent and sometimes deadly consequences to homosexual people of Church leaders calling us, for example: "animals"; "lower than dogs" and "subhuman" or suggest that we are mentally defective.
We have not heard, so far, any hint of an apology for our hurt feelings, yet alone any sense of repentance for the torture, suicide and murder that are the consequences of these dehumanising words. But it is not only words that kill, silence can be equally as deadly. Where is the voice of the Archbishop of the West Indies, Most Revd Drexel Gomes when many songs within the popular culture of his Province call for the murder of homosexuals?
Indeed, where are the words of apology and signs of repentance from the whole Church for the bonfires, fed by Christian zeal, which consumed our living bodies for so many centuries? Perhaps Church leaders who quote part of Leviticus 20:13 in their attack on homosexual people still believe in the justice of the punishment called for there: "They shall be put to death.".
The diminishing of homosexual people and denial of their human rights is not something practised by others; your own Church in Britain worked hard to see homosexual people denied the equal protection of the law very recently. The Church’s intervention was successful and now faith communities may uniquely deny us equal treatment in employment. You must see that such actions too give oxygen to the hate- filled minds of those who would hurt and kill us.
Homosexual people continue to be deeply offended by the actions of many parts of the Communion where our existence is not even acknowledged, where our voices are strangled before we can be heard or seen as part of the family of God brought into being by the Word. It was once the same here, we were forced by law and social convention into invisibility, we ache for the suffering of our brothers and sisters in the world who are still silent and unseen, and even worse, forced by convention to condemn and persecute their own.
This is a burden often too heavy for them to bear, and we know well the reproaches they suffer. We wonder if the present atmosphere of fierce rejection will ever pass so they may learn to speak with confidence, or if they will, even then, find a Church willing to listen.
The rape and murder of Fannyann Eddy, founder of the Sierra Leone Lesbian and Gay Association and a lesbian rights activist across Africa, in Sierra Leone on 29 September 2004 , reminds us of the consequences when different faith communities often compete with each other in their open hatred of homosexual people as a sign of their "political correctness". We also want to avoid the development of competing branches of Christianity based on who "hates fags" most.
You are right to point out that even in countries where there are no legal penalties against homosexuality the problems can be immense, as in the Brazilian province of Bahia where over a three year period some 200 people were murdered in homophobic assassinations.
You appeal for careful consideration and thoughtful prayer in this present crisis which the Windsor Report seeks to address. But why are we here?
For thirty years American Anglicans have made clear their intentions. Lambeth Conferences in 1978, 1988 and 1998 called for dialogue and the willingness to listen to lesbian and gay Christians. It is because of the failure of the Communion to enter into any serious and meaningful discussions that we have arrived at this potential parting of the ways. You have become party to this profoundly flawed process, devised in particular by your predecessor, and the other Primates who have failed the Communion and brought us, thereby, to this perilous place.
Like many Anglicans we have welcomed the facilitative developments arising from our Covenants with our ecumenical partners; we rejoice in the diversity and inclusiveness that these have embraced. Among the Porvoo Churches there are those who see no problem with homosexuality and who are at a loss to understand our current crisis, while some Old Catholic dioceses have authorised liturgies for same-sex blessings.
But the process which has thrown up the idea for a Covenant between Anglican Churches might well appear anything other than facilitative or embracing of difference to many Provinces, and particularly to lesbian and gay Anglicans.
There is reasonable concern that the call for such a Covenant at this time has elements of duress and coercion that do not speak of the "appropriate commitments which we can freely and honestly make with one another".
Twenty years ago when your former Province of Wales was considering the moves of some Provinces towards the ordination of women, it sought the advice and aid of the Instruments of Unity. It received a ‘chilly response’ to its suggestions that such changes should be achieved by Communion-wide consensus. We have seen the ordination of women, changes in marriage discipline and changes in the liturgy; all decided within the competency of the local Church without any call for a limit to "autonomy" or threat as to how these might fail in "honouring the gift" of the many links, both formal and informal, that unite us.
It seems to many that the present threat of schism is much to do with what has gone before, and that the Church has decided to "delay justice" for its Lesbian and Gay members in order to preserve a Church that is already straining over the diversity that has developed hitherto. There is a clear implication that we are being asked to "wait a while" as the Anglican Church settles to these earlier changes, with the promise of justice in the future.
There are many amongst us who, in the short or medium term, would gladly relinquish such fripperies as the wearing of a mitre if freedom from tyranny for the majority of LGBT people in our world were the prize, or even for the promise of making that struggle for justice a top priority for the Anglican Communion. But others see justice delayed as no justice at all, and are not convinced that the Communion has any real or lasting concern for the plight of its lesbian and gay members beyond your tenure of office.
Yet while we do not wish to see the sacrifice of the inclusiveness of those Provinces which have embraced fully their baptised lesbian and gay members, and opened all the doors of God’s service to them, neither do we wish to be separated from the Provinces where our brothers and sisters in Christ are still forced to silence and deception for survival.
We too find ourselves between a rock and a hard place.
You say that "staying together as a Communion is bound to be costly for us all" and we see that it has already been costly to you in terms of your conscience and integrity. Your change of heart over the ordination of Jeffrey John to the episcopate must have come at enormous personal pain, as well as the loss of goodwill and support of many who initially welcomed your arrival at Canterbury.
Unity alone would not be a price many LGBT Anglicans would be willing to pay for retreating back into their silent ghetto, no matter how temporary we felt that might be. We have already paid a costly price over the centuries in our service of the Lord, and we are not convinced that the present cost would be born evenly. We look with sadness at the refusal of some Christians to remove their so called ‘missionary presence’ from an illegal intrusion into other legitimately constituted Dioceses, and maintain their unfettered demonising homophobic stance.
Lesbian and Gay Christians feel a deep sense of repentance, not for what has happened to Gene Robinson in New Hampshire, but for their silent and sometimes active complicity in the past and continuing persecution of their kind by the Church. We will not be party to any plan that denies or delays unduly our full inclusion in Christ’s Church. Do not ask us, too much blood has been spilled already.
Yours sincerely,
Richard Kirker (Revd)
General Secretary
From Exodus’ reprint of the CNSN news letters:
“The greater majority of normal people feel nothing but disgust towards homosexuals. I am so sick and tired of the propagandizing by homosexuals that I frankly do not care if the number one law broken turns out to be physical beatings of homosexuals. Although I am normally a quiet and laid-back person, after being assaulted by the propaganda and lies from the homosexual contingent of our society, if I ever see a homosexual being beaten, I will walk on by and say ‘ho hum.’ ”
Woah. I really cannot believe that this is on the Exodus site. I am in utter shock.
I think it only reveals a part of their true nature. They sicken me, even more than Fred Phelps and his cult, for their insidiousness.
These type of rantings and statements come from years of self-hatred and self-loathing. They have to project this hatred outward and of course the object of the hate speech is the gay community. If you, as an individual, hate what you are, (a gay man or woman) you will hate that contingent of society that reflects yourself. This statement is probably from a member of Exodus that has been unsuccessful in changing his sexual orientation but presents a fake persona of being straight. How incredibly sad.
(‘No Such Thing as Hate Crime’
“There is no such thing as a ‘hate crime’ per se. The very name hints at unconstitutional special rights and privileges. A crime is a crime is a crime… So you get [angry] at someone, does that then mean that the crime has become a ‘hate crime?’ Attacks against homosexuals, according to the FBI, remain the third most prevalent crime in the US today. The reason for this is simple, regardless of the phony polls. The greater majority of normal people feel nothing but disgust towards homosexuals. I am so sick and tired of the propagandizing by homosexuals that I frankly do not care if the number one law broken turns out to be physical beatings of homosexuals. Although I am normally a quiet and laid-back person, after being assaulted by the propaganda and lies from the homosexual contingent of our society, if I ever see a homosexual being beaten, I will walk on by and say ‘ho hum.’ (“Senate Adds Sexual Orientation, Gender to ‘Hate Crimes’ Law,” June 16) )
This is not an official statement by Exodus, though. This is a reprint of a letter to the editor. Why is that so shocking? I think the idea was to show the intolerance of some people. Maybe I’m missing something, but that’s my take on the issue.
Exodus reprinted the letter without the slightest effort at criticism.
Exodus did not clarify or explain the intolerance of some people; it merely repeated the intolerance. Then Exodus enhanced the intolerance with further factual distortions about hate crimes — and domestic violence.
If Exodus had disapproved of the intolerance, I believe it would have said so, and it would have modeled alternative, truthful forms of expression.
That’s my take on it. 🙂
Hi Julie,
My take on this is the same as Mikes. I actually posted on Randy’s blog and mentioned why I had problems with it. He was gracious with his response, and agreed that with a message that homophobic, there should have been an extra effort on their part to criticize the man’s seeming advocating of violence against gays.
By not saying anything, it implies condoning the letter at the very least, and possibly much worse imo.
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Cute
Tony,
I’m curious about this “homosexual life” you came out of. I’m not sure about the definition of “homosexual life” and have two questions to help clarify:
1. If a person considered themselves to be gay, had gay friends, and frequented gay establishments and yet for various reasons chose not to have sex, would they be in a homosexual life?
2. If a person considered themselved heterosexual but had gay friends and pretty much exclusively frequented gay establishments, would they be in a homosexual life?
3. If a person considered themselves gay but did not have gay friends or frequent gay establishments, would they be in a homosexual life?
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Um, why? What are you advertising?
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Interesting how you seem to define intolerance as calling ex-gay advocates on their well documented lies, Tony. Comments like the ones on your site which show absolutely no regard for the truth demonstrate exactly why exgaywatch is needed.
Tony, even though I despise the unfairness of your attempting to influence others to follow your destructive choice I was surprised and saddened to read this on your site:
“Even though I repented and turned from the homosexual life, it is clear most Christian still do not accept me as a brother. They are appalled by my presence/past and they wish I would not have started a Church of Christ ex-gay outreach. Most when I asked if they would link to my site (including congregations), they would not.”
I am sorry to hear that the people that have given you the illogical pressure to become exgay now reject you for essentially doing as they’ve demanded. I say hypocrisy so much…
There’s been thousands of religions over the millenia Tony, there isn’t any logical or scientific reason to believe that any one of them is entirely correct and its clear that typically it is the nature of religions to be made up. Its not a sin to be in a loving monogamous same sex relationship Tony, what matters is not the gender of the one you love, but the quality of the treatment you give that person. You will be a completely moral and upstanding person if you just follow the golden rule and put fairness first.
Hmmm… so does this mean we need to start an exgaywatcherwatch site to watch tony watching us watch the ex-gay ministries?
I guess it’s a compliment in some way. We’ve become so effective at pointing out the lies of the ex-gay ministries that now Tony feels that he has to set up a site just to combat us. Though the ex-gays could have used someone with a better command of the English language and with a better sense of how to make a website readable.
For the most part I am accepted there are always a few that will not. I am looking to God not to man.
I also beg you to leave the homosexual lifestyle before you either get Aids or die from it.
Yes, because only gays can get AIDS–it is, after all, a curse from God that afflicts only homosexuals, and not, say, a sexually-transmitted disease that can be transferred during even “normal” sexual acts. And there’s certainly nothing a gay man could do to prevent getting AIDS, their sinfulness just burns condoms right off.
Tony,Timothy asked you before, and you still haven’t answered.What is this “homosexual lifestyle”???Is this a TV program, something like “Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous”?
Even though I repented and turned from the homosexual life, it is clear most Christian still do not accept me as a brother. They are appalled by my presence/past and they wish I would not have started a Church of Christ ex-gay outreach. Most when I asked if they would link to my site (including congregations), they would not.
I have to say, that made me sad as well (referencing Randi’s comment). You are entitled to your opinion, both on life and on Scripture, but you really should try to correct some of the quotes you have on your site. Anyone with a little knowledge of the statistics will pick up on the inaccuracy of your figures (death rates, disease stats, etc). I was also surprised to see you reference Jeffrey Satinover. I thought most people, especially Christians, had caught onto him after he wrote “Cracking the Bible Code” in the 1990’s – what a sham.
I hope you are as content with your decisions as you say. I would suggest you think twice before heaping the guilt from your own life onto others, however. Your understanding of what God wants of you is one thing, but making that decision for others is quite another. That way, if you happen to be wrong on some of your interpretations, at least it will only affect your own life.
David